I can really relate to this. Friends have asked me how I move on so "easily" and I've even been dubbed the Ice Queen. I'm cool with that 😅🤦 Truth is, it is not easier to resist the temptation to reminisce, look back, think about the good times. It's easier to give in to what I perceive to be a weakness; a need to know, see, to be seen as 'caring'. But these are behaviours and thought patterns that can actually stop us from moving on sooner, and for some, staying attached through social media only draws out the pain and discomfort of moving on.
Some people will even get sucked back into a toxic relationship that they know - deep down - will end with the same pain, or worse, than before. Sometimes, sucked back in several times before FINALLY doing what needs to be done (been there, done that, 5 years it took to learn a valuable lesson, never looked back since). When I decide to move on, I move the fuck on because I don't have time to waste wishing, regretting, looking back....I can still care about someone, but I don't need to check in on them on social media - ever. Their life without me is none of my business, and vice versa.
I'm proud to be in the percentage of women who don't look up their exes, because I believe it's harder to NOT look than to give in to whatever it is that makes a person feel like they have to look.
After finally cutting free of a highly toxic relationship I established a belief that I now live by: I don't look back, I'm not going that way, my future is in front of me and that will include someone else 😏
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